Curated by Lisa Welsh
Tools for Men’s Sexual Wellness
For better solo time, better sex, and a better relationship with your body.
The tools that actually work.
Most men find sex toys either intimidating or underwhelming. Wrong toy, no context, no idea what to actually do with it. This page fixes that.
I’m Lisa Welsh, sex educator, sex coach, and creator of Unmapped. These are the tools I recommend alongside my own work. Personally selected, and enjoyed by many.
For education, guided audios, and honest conversation about male sexuality, come find me at His Library. It’s free.
Sex toys for men
The ones men love most.
Quiet, discreet, easy to use, and way more fun than most men expect. Grouped by what you’re looking to explore: solo, prostate, or couples play.
The product links below are affiliate links. I may earn a small commission if you buy through them, at no extra cost to you. I only recommend things I stand behind.
Solo play
Automatic stroker
Solace Pro
The “Holy Sh*t, I Didn’t Know Toys Could Do This” stroker. Fully automatic, app-controlled, and a completely different experience to anything manual. The one that changes minds.
Glans massager
Gush 2 Motion
Focused stimulation on the most sensitive part. If you’ve been numb from years of the same grip and pace, this wakes everything back up. Brilliantly designed.
Vibrating cock ring
Diamo
Works solo and with a partner. Keeps you harder for longer and adds vibration for both of you. One of those toys couples wonder why they waited so long to try.
Prostate play
Prostate massager
Edge 2
The best first prostate toy. Beginner-friendly shape, adjustable, app-controlled. If you’ve been curious but not sure where to start, this is the one. More men than you’d think have never looked back.
Vibrating butt plug
Hush 2
Wearable, whisper-quiet, and surprisingly versatile. Great for solo exploration and fun for couples. The vibration patterns are far more sophisticated than you’d expect.
Thrusting massager
Ridge
Hands-free, thrusting, designed to hit the prostate precisely. For when you’re ready to go deeper. The hands-free experience alone makes this a completely different kind of pleasure.
Couples
Wand vibrator
Domi 2
The app-controlled wand that closes the orgasm gap. If she struggles to climax during partnered sex, this changes the dynamic completely. One of the most practically useful toys a couple can own.
Nipple clamps
Gemini
Vibrating nipple clamps that add a whole new dimension to couples play. A great entry point into sensation play for couples who are curious but not sure where to start.
Panty vibrator
Ferri
Discreet, wearable, controlled from your phone. A playful way to build anticipation before you’ve even arrived at dinner. She won’t stop smiling. You’ll know why.
Free tutorial — educator recommendation
Make Her Squirt — Free Tutorial by Kenneth Play
Kenneth Play is one of the most practical sex educators working today. No mysticism, no guesswork, just clear step-by-step technique that works.
This free tutorial breaks down exactly how to make a woman squirt. If you’ve ever wanted to give her that experience and weren’t sure where to start, this is the most reliable resource I’ve found. I recommend it regularly.
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Research-backed platform — educator recommendation
OMGYes — The Science of Female Pleasure, Finally Explained Clearly
OMGYes is the most practical, research-backed resource available for understanding how women actually experience pleasure. Real women, real techniques: pressure, speed, rhythm, angle, tempo. You see everything clearly, step by step.
This will upgrade your skill set more than anything else available online. Not in a porn way. In an “I actually know what I’m doing now” way. I recommend it to almost every man I work with who is in a relationship.
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